The Art of...

A childhood friend of mine told me before the babies were born that it would be "the best thing you do and the hardest thing you do." She is right. It's the best and it's hard (jury is out on the hardest question). I look at these people and still have a bit of surprise that they vibrating in their chair (thank god for that thing) or sleeping in my arms. 2 months later ya think I would get over the quasi-surprise part.

What is truly surprising is how much you have to re-negotiate: space,relationships, communication, time, career, and more. I'm not complaining. Renegotiation and redefining is part of life...Part of the old contract with The Big Man/Mamma in the sky. It's just foreign.

I hope my soon to be born nephew will negotiate his way into this world in a a safe and speedy manner this morning. I admire my sister-in-law who this past week, mangaged to meet Bill and Hillary Clinton in North Carolina while she was nearly 2 weeks over due with the baby. I'm Sorry. I know you are bummed they lost. But Hillary might need to drop out soon.

ps. My FMLA was just approved. Above is a picture of aidan trying to talk his way out of something....

Placement issues

I tried to quit (or give notice) this morning that I was leaving my job in June. It's complicated, but basically the funding for my position is being approved by some executive types in Washington. I think (sorry brain fog conversation) after the conversation with my boss -it was suggested that I request Family Medical Leave and take off 3 months...And If I don't like the salary that may be approved from Washington in July that I then make the decision in July/August whether to return in September.

Anywho, there was a conversation whether or not I would be approved for FMLA. I firmly believe I am entitled to FMLA - which allows unpaid leave for up to 3 months for the birth or "placement of a child" for adoption in the home. Hello? Since NY State allows 2nd parent adoption AND the children are firmly placed (and popping, smiling, coo-ing) I am entitled. Let them say otherwise...that would be interesting.